Marriage counseling for improving sex life

Marriage Counseling for improving sex life

Marriage counseling can indeed be beneficial for improving a couple’s sex life. Many couples experience challenges and difficulties in their sexual relationship, and seeking professional help can provide a supportive and structured environment to address these issues. Marriage counselors who specialize in sex therapy can help couples navigate various concerns, such as lack of desire, mismatched libidos, communication problems, sexual dysfunctions, and past trauma affecting intimacy.

The treatment guideline outlined by Kaplan (1983) emphasizes a hierarchical approach to intervention methodologies. The objective is to initially implement less intensive, short-term, and educational-behavioral interventions before resorting to more extensive psychological, interpersonal, and mechanical interventions.

Marriage counseling for improving sex life involves these interventions:

  1. Education: Providing couples with information and knowledge about sexual issues and techniques.
  2. Relaxation interventions: Interventions focused on helping individuals and couples relax and reduce anxiety related to sexual problems.
  3. Relaxation and relationship-enhancing interventions with the couple: Interventions that combine relaxation techniques with activities aimed at strengthening the couple’s relationship.
  4. Sensate focus intervention: A specific technique that involves gradual and structured sensory exploration between partners, enhancing intimacy and reducing performance anxiety.
  5. Couple therapy: A form of therapy that addresses relationship dynamics and communication patterns to improve overall sexual functioning.
  6. Individual psychotherapy: Therapy sessions focused on exploring individual issues and psychological factors that may contribute to sexual problems.
  7. Use of medication and mechanical devices: In some cases, the use of medication or mechanical devices may be recommended as a supplementary intervention to address specific physiological concerns.

It’s important to note that there are two main types of marriage counseling approaches: behavioral therapy (also known as ‘sex therapy’) and exploratory therapy.

  • Behavioral therapy: This approach focuses on techniques for managing issues such as premature ejaculation or arousal problems. The couple actively participates in the therapy process and works together to develop strategies and skills.
  • Exploratory therapy: This approach delves into relationship issues that contribute to sexual problems. It involves examining the dynamics and underlying factors affecting the couple’s intimacy and addressing them within the therapeutic setting.


By following this treatment guideline, couples can receive interventions that are tailored to their specific needs, gradually working through less intensive methods before considering more extensive psychological or mechanical interventions. 

Source: Textbook of Family and Couples Therapy, Sholevar, G.P., & Schwoeri, L.D. (2003).


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